This is my first blog post in a long time. I had to take care of myself and get my health in a better state. I suffer from chronic migraines and it really took a toll on me the last year and a half. I am finally back though!
During this time, I have also been working on my Weight loss goals, starting my non-profit, and learning more self-care. I have become more stable in my moods than I had been in years during the last 5 months. All the hard work paid off with a total weight loss of 50 lbs last year and still dropping this year.
By God’s grace and mercy, I am doing something I truly love as a Certified Peer Support Specialist, and even started restoring my relationship with God and my family. I have been busily blessed to say the least!
These steps that mean so much to me and to my health were almost stolen away by the past when I was harshly reminded of the person I used to be in high school. All the hard work. The sweat, tears, prayers, and pain suddenly seemed for not in the face of that reality. All the optimism and sticky notes (the time spent doing the sticky notes), all the quotes, affirmations, and even all the advice I give to others in recovery (and their loved ones) suddenly seemed to pale against this dark figure of the past me.
This past me: A me that I could hardly remember due to bouts of mania and depression that I didn’t even understand until I was 38 when I was diagnosed; the me that was wounded, hurt, and traumatized. Suddenly this, broken wounded past me (the one who didn’t know she was worthy because the Creator made her so) had all the power again.
Then, this morning through a powerful prayer call from my Church, I was reminded of the tactics of the enemy. How he will use your past, say that you are not worthy, (lie, lie, and even use old truths) to make you think and feel that you are not worthy of love and of all God has in store for your future. The call was just in time and just what I needed to break out of the bondage that I’d allowed a negative reminder of who I used to be to affect the person that I decided to be today.
I believe that while all people need to know that their past holds no power over them-I believe this is especially true for those of us in recovery from mental health issues. Whoever you were when you were ill, what ever you did when you were less stable does not define you! We have to also remember and even accept that others may not always see who you are, because all they see is the version of you that they never understood anyway (or sadly thought they did). And that is ok. We cannot be contained by their thoughts or feelings towards us. A wise man once said that what someone else thinks of you is none of your business. With the stigmas that we fight both personally and mainstream, empathy and education are the tools we need for those who have not a clue what it is like to walk in our shoes. Our present peace and future happiness however, are not theirs to add to nor take away from in the first place.
Your past, nor your illness, does not define your future; it is only part of the intricate road that has led to where you are and is currently being paved brick by brick by you…….and it is within your power to confidently lay the bricks into the direction of your dreams. #worthy #nojudgement #nostigma #dreambig